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Alpha

Masculinity

No More Mr. Nice Guy

How to Be An Alpha Man

In a Woman’s World

Ebook Reference

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MODULE 1:

Introduction: Part 1

Introduction

Welcome to the Alpha Masculinity program. This is Carlos Xuma, and here is my most

important program to date - more important than all my programs on how to approach

women and how to go as far with your sexuality as you want. This is the way to realize

your own masculinity. This will feed every situation: every woman you meet, every

dollar you earn, every pound you lift in the gym. We’ll address:

•The nice guy syndrome

•Different facets of what it means to be a man and get rid of the immature aspects

that hold us back

•The way of the warrior – an important energy and a definite part of the masculine

psyche

•Life lessons from my life and the lives of many other men – specific things to do

to feel like an alpha man

•A reading list of books and a list of movies to watch

•Touch on what it means to be a cool guy, that other men want to hang out with

and women want to get with.

•Power – and war. These are two elements of a man’s life you may not

understand fully

•Valuable messages as to what your passion and purpose is in life.

You’ll have a clear cut path to follow to get the woman, job, wealth, the spiritual side –

whatever you want.

Review one segment per day of this program, and after a month you’ll have a solid

understanding. Don’t try to listen to too much of this program at once, it’s addicting, but

you’ll burn out. Each time you listen to it you’ll find new wisdom, definition and

application you weren’t ready for the first time.

Masculinity is something we’ve lost over the past 30-40 years. Our fathers didn’t

understand how it was turning into a woman’s world. When you’re done here you’ll

understand what it means to hold masculinity close to your heart.

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If you only listen to this you’ll get a few epiphanies, but it’s when you do the practices

that you get the real benefit. It’s a physical, interactive process so you can grow in ways

you never imagined.

You’ll have to write things down, so be prepared with a paper and pen, a journal or an

open text file.

This is Carlos Xuma. Welcome to the Alpha Masculinity program.

Introduction: Part 2

Introduction

A lot of what we’ll talk about relates to my concept of the Alpha Man.

Meaningful quotes:

“If money is your hope for independence, you’ll never have it. The only real

security that man will ever have in this world is a reserve of knowledge,

experience and ability.” – Henry Ford

“A little less complaint and whining, and a little more dogged work and manly

striving, would do us more credit than a thousand civil rights bills.” – W.E.B

Dubois

“Life is too short to be little. Man is never so manly as when he feels deeply, acts

boldly, and expresses himself with frankness and with fervor.” - Benjamin

Disraeli

“Look not mournfully into the past, it comes not back again; wisely improve the

present, it is thine. Go forth to meet the shadow of your future without fear and

with a manly heart.” - Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

“If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on

you, if you can trust yourself when all men doubt you but make allowance for

their doubting too; if you can wait and not be tired by waiting or, being lied about,

don’t deal in lies, or being hated, don’t give way to hating and yet don’t look too

good nor talk too wise; If you can dream and not make your dreams your master,

if you can think and not make your thoughts your aim; if you can meet with

triumph and disaster and treat these two impostors just the same; if you can bear

to hear the truth you’ve spoken twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools, or

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watch the things you gave your life to broken and stood up and build them with

worn out tools; if you can make one heap of all your winnings and risk it at one

turn of pitch and toss, and lose and start again at your beginnings and never

breathe a word about your loss; if you can force your heart and nerve and sinew to

serve your turn long after they’re gone, and so hold on when there’s nothing in

you except the will which says to them ‘hold on’; if you can talk with crowds and

keep your virtue, or walk with kings nor lose the common touch, if neither foes

nor loving friends can hurt you, if all men count with you but none too much; if

you can fill the unforgiving minute with sixty seconds worth of distance run,

yours is the earth and everything that’s in it, and which is more, you’ll be a man,

my son.” – Rudyard Kipling

”It is well to remember that the entire universe, with one trifling exception, is

composed of others. – John Andrew Holmes

“Men want the same thing from their underwear that they want from women: a

little bit of support and a little bit of freedom.’ - Jerry Seinfeld

Concepts

What does masculinity mean? What are the traits of the masculine man?

•Strength, fortitude of will

•Confidence: ambient (that which you have all the time – it allows you to face the

day) and specific (you have confidence in certain skills)

•Decisive – a man’s power lies in his ability to make and stick to decisions

•Socially aware – mediate, handle yourself

•Wise – usually beyond his years, has a greater time perspective on life

•Knows how to redirect instead of block – when we have conflict, we don’t have

to face it with aggressive, angry fear. We can steer an opponent’s energy and let

them pass by or hurt themselves.

•Responsibility – for his life, steps up to the plate

•Boyish attitude (curiosity, playfulness) with a manly strength and capability

•Emotionally controlled – knows how to manage his emotions

•Feel empowered – the ability to give yourself responsibility, you can’t wait for

others to give you what you want and expect

•Relaxed – the opposite of anxious. Most guys are anxious/nervous and it makes

them unattractive to women

•Motivated and passionate – goes after what he wants with drive & concern for

the world: tapped into an inner energy

•Ambitious – goal driven, most attractive trait as per women

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•Knows how to manage limited energy supply well and efficiently. Emotional,

spiritual, and sexual energy is finite. One of the most powerful forms we have is

sexual energy and it has to be managed.

•Constructive selfishness

Example: we are given instructions on an airplane to put our own oxygen mask on first

Inner game mastery – this is covered in complete detail in the

Ultimate Inner Game

program (http://innergame.carlosxuma.com) this is your overall feeling of confidence

& self esteem. We have to have it to approach and date women, but also in almost every

area of our lives, including career, friendships, hobbies, family life

Generosity – an Alpha man has so much self-love that in the end, he has an abundance of

generosity, money, love, and time because he’s taken the energy to make himself

someone who can stand on his own.

An Alpha Man is not: (get rid of, eliminate)

•Victim thinking – it’s a debilitating mental illness that tells us we don’t control things at

all. It’s just a way of eliminating responsibility

•Scarcity thinking – an alpha man has an abundance mentality, while most people by

nature believe that everything’s scarce. There are plenty of women, money, and

opportunities out there even in hard times.

•Black & white thinking – you can only think one way or another and not work in gray

terrain. This is a symptom of insecurity and feeling deprived, we categorize things so we

don’t have to think about them.

Example: racism.

•The alpha man isn’t combative. That’s an ineffective use of strategy – a limited capacity

to solve problems with new alternatives

•Rigidity is also holding you back – the over structured nature of our lives, typically in

response to insecurity. Sticking to safe patterns will shut you off to alternatives and

blocks your energy from women.

•The emotional wallowing – melancholy, moody behaviors. Watch out for this slippery

slide we get into. Don’t be sulky and pouty because things aren’t going your way or

you’re not getting attention or being treated fairly. It’s nobody’s responsibility but your

own to get you what you want.

Have faith that with enough persistent work, it will happen.

Example: As a child I had a baseball glove that was a bit stiff and too big for me, I

couldn’t manipulate it with my hand. My dad told me to work it in by sleeping with it

under the mattress, punching the palm of it, even running the car over it. At first you

don’t notice any difference or softening, but after awhile it does start to soften up and get

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