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Life
on
TARGET
How
to
Set Goals
and
Achieve Your Dream Life
with
John Assaraf
Life
on
TARGET
How
to
Set Goals
and
Achieve Your Dream Life
Goals give your life direction. Consider this…
When a plane leaves an airport, even after the pilot puts in the coordinates of the final
destination, the flight path must be continuously monitored and adjusted to keep the
plane on course. Due to winds, weather or other conditions, the plane will normally
and constantly stray from the flight plan. Then it’s up to the pilot to bring it back on
course. That’s why knowing the final destination is so important. Likewise, once you
make up your mind to create the life of your dreams, it’s up to you to stay on course
despite the conditions.
Without goals, you don’t have a destination. And you can’t arrive at a
destination if you don’t know where you are going.
You may have heard about a study of Harvard graduates who left school. Fourteen
percent had defined, specific objectives for themselves, and they earned three times the
income of the group without them. But those who wrote them down, earned 10 times
more than the other group!
It’s a story that’s been circulating in the personal development community for so
long that it became an urban legend. It also turns out to be an urban myth, but it was
so popular that professor Gail Matthews at Dominican University decided to test it.
The result: if you write down a detailed description of your goal and how you plan to
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Life
on
TARGET
How
to
Set Goals
and
Achieve Your Dream Life
achieve it, your success at reaching
that goal increases by 50%. In
science, that’s a huge difference, and
it certainly makes a point that I know
is true without question:
Setting
clear written goals hones our
focus, gives us direction, and
makes it far more likely that
we’ll actually live the life of our
dreams rather than just drift
along on whatever whim our
circumstances present.
I know it’s been one of the most powerful tool in my life and it’s true for all of us—
and it doesn’t matter if you’re a college graduate or not.
You have the chance right now to create anything in your life that you desire.
Today we know that a couple of things happen when you write your goals down:
When you write your goals in clear, precise terms, you not only achieve them more
easily, you improve your self esteem. In fact, if you were to write down three things
you did well each day and explain why, and only did this exercise for a week, your
self confidence and wellbeing will continue to grow for the next three months. This
research study put Positive Psychology on the map, and it even demonstrated that you
could decrease feelings of anxiety and depression. The same holds true if you keep a
gratitude journal for a couple of weeks.
However, if you write about negative feelings and events, you’ll actually begin to do
damage to your brain because every negative thought shuts down the pleasure-seeking
drive that every mammal and human being needs to be motivated in the world. The
newest research shows that if I were to put you in a brainscan machine and flash
the word “NO” for less than one second, your brain will release a cascade of stress
neurochemicals that interfere with emotional functioning.
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Life
on
TARGET
How
to
Set Goals
and
Achieve Your Dream Life
But the moment we focus on a goal that gives us a sense of pleasure and desire, the
motivation centers of your brain drive you toward achieving that goal. In fact it feels
good to go after new goals and experiences because the activity rewards your brain with
pleasure chemicals like dopamine. So ask yourself one simple question:
Is this goal
something that I really desire and value?
If the answer is no, then it’s not something
you absolutely want and your brain will not take action to achieve that specific goal.
Even when you choose a goal you truly desire, every worry and doubt you have will run
interference with the seeking/motivation centers of your brain. Soon the goal will feel
like a punishment, not a reward. But all you have to do is ask your intuition – which is
your inner wisdom that resides in a part of your brain known as the anterior cingulate – if
your goal is what you really desire. If the answer is yes, you’ll actually feel the pleasure
generated by neurons releasing dopamine in deep emotional recesses of your ancient brain.
If not, you’ll feel a tightening of muscles in your body. In other words, your subconscious
self almost always knows what’s best. But you have to trust that small intuitional voice,
and simply spending a few minutes relaxing will help you to “hear” that voice.
Right now, if you are not conditioned for the success you want to
achieve, it could be looking you straight in the eye and you will not see
it. It will be right in front of you, and you’ll be wondering where it’s been
hiding all the time.
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Life
on
TARGET
How
to
Set Goals
and
Achieve Your Dream Life
By tuning into the pleasure-seeking emotions of your
brain, you can quickly build a positive mindset that shuts
down negative emotions like fear, frustration, and doubt.
And when you learn how to remain exquisitely focused
on the positive goals you deeply value, you filter out
all the distractions and information you do not need.
including all the information that tries to get your
attention every moment of every day through billboards,
TV, radio and the Internet. Then you can zero in on
your goal and become absolutely mega-productive.
There are opportunities around you right now to solve every challenge you
have, but you may not see them until you condition your brain to look for,
accept, and apply them in your life.
As soon
as you know clearly and specifically what you want to create, the rest of
your brain takes action. And when you do so joyfully, other people will resonate
to you and will help you reach your goals. It’s called neural resonance because
both of your brains begin to function as one. You’ll find yourself attracting all the
right people with all the right tools to help you turn your desires into reality.
Setting goals is about surrendering to the power of your cooperative, compassionate
brain, and this helps to align your values with constructive behaviors guaranteed to
help you reach your goals.
First you must start with a clear picture of what you want because the visual cortex of
your brain needs a concrete image in order to turn your motivational centers on. But
you have to do more than just visualize and write. You have work to do.
The Quakers have an expression. “When you pray, move your feet.” Another expression
goes like this: “If you’re going to be praying for potatoes, you better have a hoe ready.”
In a word—act. Massive action equals massive results.
To fuel action on your goals, take some time to consider how achieving your goals will
make you feel. How will you act, walk and talk when you achieve each goal? What will
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