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Goodbye, Shy!
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Goodbye, Shy!
“Goodbye, Shy!”
by Amy Waterman
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Contents
Shyness Mastery Tip #1:
Make Friends First
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Shyness Mastery Tip #2:
Feel Good about Yourself
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Shyness Mastery Tip #3:
Stop Thinking and Start Doing
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Shyness Mastery Tip #4:
Put Him First
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Shyness Mastery Tip #5:
Get Perspective
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More Confidence-Building Tips ..................................................................................16
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Goodbye, Shy!
How to Overcome Shyness around Men
When you’re feeling shy, you start to get nervous and slip up. You say stupid things or do
things that are completely out of character. “It’s like a temporary insanity,” Deb told me.
“It’s like something takes hold of me and turns me into this weird person.”
Deb couldn’t relax and be herself around men. The thought of even talking to an attractive
single man made her heart race and her palms sweat. It was like a disease.
“I’ve tried everything to shake it,” she said. “The funny thing is that I’m fine around my
friends’ boyfriends and husbands. I can laugh and joke with a married guy, no problem.
But the minute I start to feel attracted to a guy – or the minute I realize that he’s attracted to
me – it’s like this switch gets thrown. I turn into a nervous, bumbling wreck.”
Deb’s not alone. Shyness with men is one of the biggest complaints for the single women
who write to me. They tell me that no matter how confident they think they feel, their con-
fidence falls to bits around a man they really like.
So how can these women overcome their shyness and allow their genuine, natural, vibrant
self to shine through?
That’s what this Special Report is all about.
You’ll learn five powerful techniques to shift your feelings of shyness so that you can be
confident, calm, and charismatic around the men you’re attracted to the most.
Shyness Mastery Tips
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5.
Make Friends First
Feel Good about Yourself
Stop Thinking and Start Doing
Put Him First
Get Perspective
Goodbye, Shy!
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Shyness Mastery Tip #1:
Make Friends First
For some women, shyness stems from a lack of experience in general with the opposite sex.
This was a particular issue for Deb. She had no brothers and had gone to an all-girls school.
Her best friends were all females, and the only men she interacted with were clients or the
partners of her female friends.
She had no idea how to relate to a man on his own terms, and that lack of experience made
her feel clueless when it came to actively engaging with a man she liked.
When a woman has few male role models or platonic male friends in her life, she often finds
it difficult to see men in any context other than sexual. She divides men into two categories:
men who like her,
and
men who don’t
(or are indifferent to her).
This puts way too much pressure on every interaction she has with a man. If she feels like
she has to make every man she meets feel attracted to her, then no wonder she starts to
panic at even the thought of talking with a man!
I gave Deb an exercise to break this pattern. Deb had to promise me that she would avoid
any romantic entanglements for three months. She could talk to men and make friends with
anyone she liked – in fact, she was encouraged to do both – but she could not flirt or go out
on dates. Any form of romance was off limits.
At first, she felt like this was a counterproductive thing to do. She wanted to learn how to
get better with men, not stop dating them altogether! But she agreed to try my suggestion.
The reason I gave Deb this exercise was because I wanted her to see what it felt like to inter-
act with men with absolutely NO pressure involved. As long as there was the possibility of
a romantic attraction, Deb would put pressure on herself to get the man to like her.
At first, Deb reacted by spending more time with her female friends and not bothering to
talk to men at all. She did find it slightly easier to interact with the men at work, but overall
she didn’t notice much difference. She felt like the exercise was restricting her, not helping
her.
But starting from the second month, her perspective began to change. She was invited to a
party, and whereas before she would have agonized over what to wear and how she looked,
this time it took her just fifteen minutes to throw on jeans and a shirt. She felt so much more
relaxed, with all the pressure off to meet someone. Her friends knew that she was prohib-
ited from dating, so they didn’t try to set her up with anyone. It was so much more fun that
she was amazed. For the first time, chatting with men didn’t feel like work!
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